Last night I came across the final words of Sarada Devi. She was the wife of the great 19th century Indian mystic, Ramakrishna. After his death, she became a revered teacher in her own right. On her deathbed she said:
“But I tell you one thing—if you want peace of mind, do not find fault with others. Rather see your own faults. Learn to make the whole world your own. No one is a stranger my child: this whole world is your own!”
I took it to mean that there is no reason to be a victim of others. Take responsibility for your own life. If you don’t like your circumstances, examine your own participation in them and change yourself. No one is separate from you. A change in your own life can impact the circumstances around you.
I woke up at 3 AM thinking about her words and how I often blame others when I am unhappy. Perhaps, instead of looking outside of myself for the problem, it’s time I root this disease out from within.